5 ways to Make Your Partner Comfortable During Intimacy

Intimacy is an important milestone in any relationship, but one that needs to be reached very carefully. It is not just about sex, but all the little gestures surrounding it as well. If you’re planning to move on to this milestone will your partner, but are worried about their comfort, read on to find what you can do to make this special experience memorable for both.

1. Start from outside the bedroom

Intimacy is not just about being together in bed. It has to start way outside the bedroom and well before the night too. The best way to make them comfortable with intimacy is incorporating it in smaller gestures throughout the day. Small, meaningful acts such as holding hands, pulling then closer as you sit, talking a little naught (not dirty) with them occasionally are the baby steps that will help make the transitions easier in the bedroom.

2. Talk, and then talk some more

Communication is the key to all things in a relationship, intimacy included. The only way they’ll know really well what you mean and want is when you talk it out. And the same goes for them as well. Keep the communication transparent, discuss your desires and be open and honest. These simple steps will actually go a long way as trusts builds and they start getting comfortable enough with you to open up not just mentally, but physically as well.

3. Go slow

Often being in the bedroom, in a romantic mood with your partner makes one forget that they still need to take things slow. Do not rush with anything. Make sure they are okay, in the mood, comfortable enough to relax and not tensed. Talk normally and take baby steps by sitting close, holding hands, caressing their face, moving their hair away from their face, etc. Let there be a distinction between your sexual and romantic advances. Giving your partner enough time to warm up is important so make sure you read their pace and go slow. Try out the new sex position pillows for better physical comfort as well.

4. Lots of foreplay

This goes without saying. You can’t, or rather shouldn’t just jump into the act. Foreplay gives time to get in the mood, to open up and lose all inhibitions. Some people cannot just begin to get close to their partners no matter how connected they are. Let them take their time while you initiate with delicate movements. Kiss, kiss and then kiss some more. Explore their body gently, and guide them to touch yours. Don’t be in a rush to take off clothes, let things take their course as you get them hot and ready for the main act of intimacy.

5. Pay attention to their body language and change course when necessary

Not everyone is verbal enough to express that they are uncomfortable. Be open to understanding their body language. If they’re tightening up or not responding openly, try asking them or changing the course of your actions. Maybe they don’t like a certain action or the feeling may not be pleasant. Don’t feel dejected, instead try to do things differently to see if they want something else. If they aren’t open to talk about it, let them tell you through touch or read their facial expressions. Basically, just pay attention. Remember it is not just about your pleasure, but theirs as well. Sexual compatibility matters a great deal between partners and it blossoms like a flower if dealt with the right way. Be gentle, slow and respectful and see the romance bloom in your life in no time.