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by on May 4, 2021
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Plan ahead to get the most from your conversation

It is a difficult time for many at the moment and Ireland hasn't been spared. Not least those that have found themselves separated from their significant other. Many Irish men and women cannot meet when they want, even if they are engaged, unless they live under the same roof. Many Irish people have thus been compelled to use only the phone to keep an intimate contact with their partner.

Keeping intimacy over the phone with your love partner during lockdowns may seem impossible, but with a bit of forethought your relationship can continue to go from strength to strength. We are used to just quickly picking up the phone and giving someone a quick call, but in order to keep the intimate nature of our relationships in the best possible state it’s important to plan ahead to get the most from your conversation. Choose a time when you and your partner can focus on each other. You don’t want to be talking to each other while one is in the middle of washing up or fighting against an important work deadline. Make yourselves comfortable ready for the call so you can relax and properly concentrate on what the other person is saying. The point of the phone call should be to have quality conversation not just any conversation.

Don’t be afraid to be open with each other

Talking on the phone can sometimes feel uncomfortable with not being able to see each other’s reactions to what is being said. However, this can also be a breath of fresh air as you can be free to say what you want or need to say without being distracted by the other persons body language or facial expressions. Don’t be afraid to be open with each other as the call progresses. Tell each other how you are feeling and make sure you listen to what the other person is saying. Don’t just sit there waiting for your turn to talk but actually listen to what is being said and take it on board. Intimacy is about listening to what your partner shares with you, just as much as it is about you sharing with them.

Take your chat to the next level

One of the main issues with being apart from your love partner is the lack of sexually intimacy. So, if you are feeling confident and in the mood take your chat to the next level. Phone sex within the couple can be a massive boost to any relationship, and some times even live phone sex with a stranger can spur some new ideas to liven things up in the couple. Just make sure in the planning stage that you factor in the need to not be disturbed! Take it slow and find out what each other likes and then let your imagination run riot while you indulge in some adult conversation. You never know, during these conversations you might find out things about your partners sexual desires that you didn’t previously. The physical distance between you both might just be what your relationship needs to let your wilder sides come out to play.

Substitute physical intimacy with other types

Although you can’t be physically intimate with each other during these trying times, you still have the option to explore the other types of intimacy. With physical intimacy off the table for now it gives you the perfect opportunity to substitute physical intimacy with other types. Creative, emotional, intellectual, experimental and spiritual intimacy are still available for you to explore in your relationship. And these can all be done over the phone. Try and see this period of time in your lives as a way to become intimate with your partner in new ways.  Get creative with each other, talk more about your emotions and spend some time discussing intellectual topics of interest. Emotional intimacy requires you to be vulnerable with each other and once you are able to do this with each other you will be amazed at the difference it makes to your relationship. Intellectual intimacy can often be overlooked. Try things like reading the same news article or research paper and then set some time aside to discuss your thoughts and opinions during your next phone call. Experiment with things you like to talk about and even make plans to expand your horizons once the world starts to return back to normal. Don’t discount the importance of spiritual intimacy either. This doesn’t just refer to religion, but rather your hopes, dreams and beliefs. Taking the time to develop spiritual intimacy with your partner will give you a deep and meaningful insight into them as a person. Relationships are definitely under pressure at the moment but if you allow yourself to embrace the new opportunities that this gives you, you may surprise each other with how your relationship actually strengthens and deepens during these times apart.

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